Embracing the Beauty of Organic Nature and Its Transformative Power

Anger and love are both of an organic nature, and that means both can change. Love can be transformed into hate. Many of us begin a relationship with great love, very intense love. So intense that we believe that, without our partner, we cannot survive. Yet it we do not practice mindfulness, it takes only 1-2 years for our love to be turned into hatred.  

At the moment you become angry, you tend to believe that your misery has been created by another person. you blame them for all of your suffering. But by looking deeply, you may realize that the seed of your anger in you is the main cause of your suffering. 

When we begin to cultivate the energy of mindfulness, the first insight we have is that the main cause of our suffering is not the other person, but the seed of anger in us. 

Thus we stop blaming the other person for causing all of our suffering. We realize they are only the secondary cause. 

It is easy to imagine that love is enough;

that happiness will just come, and if it doesn't, 

this means we're wrong for each other. 

People rarely ask themselves,

if my goal is to have a successful relationship, what must I do? 

What actions are needed to create and sustain trust, intimacy, continuing self-disclosure, excitement, desire, and growth?