Date With Destiny Day 1

 You can't change anything you're blaming. 

Change is automatic. Progress is not. Change is never a matter of ability - change is a matter of motivation. 

A label is what you become. A label affects your actions and your neurophysiology will change as a result. 

Anxiety = Uncertainty 

Identity is our comfort zone. Do things that make you expand your identity. 

In order to influence someone, you have to know what already influences them. 

The quality of my life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty I can deal with. 

Your biggest problem is that you think you shouldn't have problems. Problems are gifts. The only difference between problems, and gifts is the meaning you give this. Out of your deepest pain will come your greatest gifts - but this can only happen when you take control of the meaning. 

The 6 Human Needs

There are 6 human needs - fundamental drives within each one of us that compel us forward in a quest to experience a life of meaning. There is no conscious effort necessary, our will to satisfy these primal needs is automatic. 

1. Certainty

Everybody wants stability about their basic necessities - food, shelter, and other material resources. When people cannot control their physical circumstances, they may seek certainty through a state of mind. 

2. Uncertainty/Variety 

People have a need to change their state, to exercise their body and emotions. therefore they seek variety through a number of means - stimuli, change of scene, physical activity, mood swings, entertainment, food, etc. 

3. Significance

Everybody needs to feel special and important in some way. People will seek significance through obtaining recognition from others or from themselves. When people feel insignificant, they may make themselves feel significant by getting angry. Others might try to feel significant due to the size or complexity of their problems. 

4. Connections/Love

Humans need to feel connected with someone or something - a person, an ideal, a value, a habit, or a sense of identity. Connection may take the form of love, or it may be created by a sense of belonging, or a spiritual sense. Like any of the 6 human needs, people can fulfill their need for connection and love in positive or negative ways. 

5. Growth

Everything is either growing or dying. It doesn't matter how much money you have, how many people acknowledge you, or what you have achieved. Unless you feel like you're growing, you will be unhappy and fulfilled. 

6. Contribution

We all have a deep need to go beyond ourselves and to live a life that serves the greater good. In the moments that we do this, we experience true joy and fulfillment. Contribution is the ultimate secret to the joy that so many people wish to have in their lives. 

All human beings are consistently seeking to meet the 6 human needs, and we all tend to value two more than the rest. For example, someone who values certainty most will live a radically different life than someone who values uncertainty/variety. Similarly, someone who focuses on significant most will interact with others very differently than someone whose number one need is for connection or love. Once you understand what's truly driving you, you'll unlock the answers to create lasting change in any area of your life.